#1 – If you do anything, someone will criticize it.
#2 – If you say anything, someone will be offended.
The sooner you realize those are THEIR issues not YOURS and move on the better off you will be. If you try to only do or say things that will not get criticized or offend you might as well never do or say anything. If that happens then the world would miss all you have to offer and that would be sad. If I did that I would never click Publish on this blog.
Although sometimes we all wish someone else (not us) would stop doing or saying; it is only through discussing different alternatives and viewing issues from the other person’s perspective we will ever arrive at the best solution for the problems we do have in common. The only way to accomplish this is through active listening. That brings me to number 3.
#3 – You don’t learn anything while you are talking.
Learn to listen
Listening is not a passive activity. You have to intentionally make the effort to really listen. If you do practice and learn to listen intentionally to understand you will be surprised at what you will learn.
Steven Covey said it well in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,
If more of us made this effort a lot of problems we have today could be minimized and actually resolved before they become hijacked and blown out of proportion by social and other media in this 24 hour a day sensationalist world we live in.
Make the effort. You will learn something about others and also about yourself.
Until next time…
Originally posted on Peculiar Perspective on 07/09/2016