Adult? Language

Adult? LanguageI must have missed the memo so can someone tell me when what once was, and still is for me, vulgar and even obscene language evolved to become adult language?

I am an adult too

I have been an adult for many years myself and I choose to not use what is now commonly categorized as adult language. Does that mean I no longer qualify to be an adult? Am I being childish?

Since I have chosen to publish this blog I guess I am wondering if there is anyone else out there who feels the same way I do or am I just really peculiar or weird or the exception to the rule. I don’t mind being an exception and actually make an effort in this direction most of the time but things like this that just become “normal” and accepted because everyone is doing it often cause me to think…and sometimes write.

Offensive to me

I find it offensive. I am not talking about the language that is now supposedly “adult” but the implication by that label that all or most adults speak that way so it must now be called “adult language.” I do not accept that premise and believe it is rather childish and shows a lack of vocabulary or a choice to not use their vocabulary by the speaker.

I do understand that being offended is my choice as it is for anyone and is based on their beliefs and understanding. Like most things in life there are exceptions to this when someone is making a conscious effort to offend someone but that is not what I am talking about here.

I have no problem with the people who choose to use this “adult language” other than just my general dislike of the language.  Until the freedom of speech is taken away from us, we all do still have free speech in this country. Everyone has the right to use the language they choose to use. That doesn’t mean I have to like the language anyone else uses or they have to like the words I choose to use. As long as we are not harming, threatening harm, or impeding on any of our other God-given rights we are still free to choose.

On a side note, this freedom, along with many of our other freedoms, are being eroded every day but that is another subject for another day.

The type of language anyone uses is still a choice that any individual can and does make every day.

Repetition does not make it so…or does it?

I find it offensive that language that was once vulgar and uncommon as everyday language has now become categorized and accepted as “adult”. I am an adult and that label offends me as it should any other adult who shares my perspective. According to Merriam-Webster adult means “fully developed and mature”. It does go on to say “dealing with explicitly sexual material” and uses adult book stores and adult movies as examples. I do understand that words in use do become colloquialized and evolve to have new meanings. Google was once just a noun, a name of a search engine, and now it is a verb too. Google it if you don’t believe me.

I guess I am just old-fashioned but I believe that many adult movies and adult books do not contain explicitly sexual material so is categorizing them as adult, in the same group as those that do contain explicitly sexual material really the best description or the best use of the language?

Confused

I was registering for a bulletin board site just yesterday and part of the rules for this board stated, “By agreeing to these rules, you warrant that you will not post any messages that are obscene, vulgar, sexually-oriented, hateful, threatening, or otherwise violative of any laws.”

Why didn’t they just say, “Do not use ‘adult’ language.”? I am confused.

Questions

I don’t propose to have any or all “the” answers but I do have a lot of questions and this is just one of many. This is nothing new for me. I get these questions in my head all the time. I am just writing some of them down now. My hope is that some of these questions might make you, the reader, think or look at a subject from a different perspective too. Another hope is that I can learn something new too as there is always more to learn.

Any Thoughts?

If you have a thought on the subject I would love to hear it. Let me know in the comments. Please do use adult language in your comments and do not post any messages that are obscene, vulgar, sexually-oriented, hateful, or threatening. While freedom of speech is still allowed in our country it is up to the blogger as to what is allowed on his or her site and if you have read this far you know what that means for this blog.

Until next time…

Originally published on Peculiar Perspective on 4/13/2013

A Peculiar Perspective begins!

Zemanta Related Posts ThumbnailWelcome to my blog called Peculiar Perspective.  More about the title I chose in a moment.

“THE END!”  This is how Zig Ziglar begins his most published and read book, which also happens to be my favorite See You At The Top.  This was an effective and attention grabbing way to start this book, which gave me a new perspective on life and changed my life for the better.  I am glad I didn’t stop reading there.

Steven Covey tells us in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to

“Begin with the end in mind” and “Seek first to understand, Then to be understood.”

His points are valid when taken in the context they are given.

I understand the points these authors are making in their books but if interpreted or used in the wrong way, or just taken out of context, one could use these as excuses for never getting started whether that be in writing a blog, changing jobs, exercising more, losing weight or running for president.  I have been doing that for too long in regards to writing and that has delayed the debut of this blog but that ends today!

(Wait for applause here…)

Thank you, thank you.  Please be seated.  Thank you for that warm welcome to the blogoshpere. 🙂

Peculiar by definition means odd, strange, weird, unusual, irregular, abnormal, unconventional, curious, or atypical, to name a few synonyms.  I have been referred to as all of the above at one time or another.  Some have told me I have a warped sense of humor.  I don’t understand that.  To me everyone else is warped and I am normal.  God called the Israelites a “peculiar people”.  He also called them “stiff-necked” (or stubborn) on multiple occasions but I will not go there right now.

Perspective is just someone, anyone’s viewpoint, outlook, perception or point of view.  Everyone has one of these and since everyone includes me, I do too.

Peculiar Perspective is what I chose as my blog title since I am a peculiar person, either by God’s or man’s definition, and I do have a perspective or point of view.  I am of the belief that my peculiar perspective on things is similar to many others and really is not peculiar at all but is what was known in an earlier time as common sense.  As this blog develops over time this theory will either be validated or disproved.  Time will tell.

I really do not know what this blog is going to look like as it develops.  I have a lot of ideas rattling around in my brain and this may take many different directions before it becomes focused or it may never become focused on one theme or topic.  I have been on this earth for a little over half a century (that sounds like a long time when quantified that way) so I have many experiences and lessons learned that should be appropriate, interesting and helpful to someone.

I am also not going to try to pin down a specific frequency for new posts.  I expect it will be weekly or maybe 2-3 times a week to start and then will be adjusted based on how that goes.

Jeff Goins says in You Are A Writer (So Start Acting Like One),

“You don’t have to have it all figured out yet. You just need to begin. You’ll figure out the rest as you go.”

That is what I am doing, beginning and figuring it out as I go.

Jon Acuff says in his new book START: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average and Do Work That Matters ,

“the only line that you can control is the START line.”

Zig Ziglar often said, 

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”

That doesn’t mean my blog is going to be great.  That is my intention.  However, I will never know unless I start.

So, I am starting right now, right here, today.  No more questions to get answered, books or blogs to read on writing or blogging, over-analysis of whether I should or should not write and what I should or should not write about.  No more trying to make it “perfect” before I publish it.  My delaying tactics are done.  This blog has begun.  Hey, that rhymes. 🙂

Thank you for joining me on this journey into odd logic, or common sense, from a somewhat atypical angle.

Until next time…

Originally published on Peculiar Perspective on 03/08/2013